Respect Their Choice

I think most of us already know the news about the Malaysian transsexual that got married in UK. So this is what I got to say. It’s just my opinion. If you don’t agree, don’t make a fuss about it. Respect freedom of expression. Tq.

Well, im emotionally disturbed by the public response towards the marriage of Fatine Min Baharin with Ian Young.

Our Malaysian Immigration Department alleged that Fatine has overstayed in UK. If found guilty, she’ll be barred from leaving this country for 2 years.

This couple don’t give harm to you personally nor the security of UK and Malaysia. They are not a threat to anyone. If you don’t want people to stop you from doing what you like and what is the best for you, then why you stop others from choosing what they like? It’s their individual right to choose their life partner.

Now we are harming them. now Malaysia seems to be threat to the couple. She is so afraid to come back to Malaysia because of the discrimination and hatred to people like her. Her act is unacceptable by the Malays, according to her. she might also be caught under the Syariah law for marrying a person with the same sex.

Aih.. stay in Malaysia, got problem. Now she left to UK also got problem.

Their marriage may seems to be against the norm of the Malaysians but culture and tradition is not a rule or obstacle for someone to live their lives. Sometimes our norms, beliefs, cultures, and traditions kill. Some of these are not even relevant to us in today’s world. The world is evolving, we are moving forward and things changed. Don’t anti people who are different then us. These people deserve the way of life they want to be. No one is born with the same personality. U may enjoy something that others don’t and vice versa. So respect others and don’t be selfish.

We can’t expect others to be like us.

By being together, they don’t harm our environment, they don’t commit any crime, they’s don’t terrorize any countries, they don’t make you loose your job, and they don’t kill, rob, steal or smuggle drugs.

Human are different. That is a fact. Therefore, we must accept the differences among us. We should celebrate the differences in us and stay united in diversity.

Some people choose to stay single, some choose to married with someone that chosen by their parents, some people prefer to have inter-marriage, some people choose to have partner from the same gender, and to Fatine and Young, they chose the marriage that they want. They have every rights in the world to stay together.

So what if they are straight or not straight? So what if they are bixesual? So what if they are gay or lesbian? So what if they are transsexual? So what if they are pengkid, pondan or tomboy? So what if they don’t have any feelings towards male or female? And so what if they date an animal??!

SO WHAT!!

You might against it, but it’s their life, let they do what they want with it. Afterall, the world should be happy because they are happy.

If it’s against their religions, let God jugde and punish them, not us. God never say we can discriminate and condemn people who are different from us, right?

No matter what she chose, it’s her decision. She has already made up her mind. it’s her choice. This is what she wants. This is what makes her comfortable with. She’s happy with it. so we just accept and respect it.

Accept the fact that she’s now a woman with the characteristics of a woman. We can’t change her back to a man.

No wonder Malaysians always associated with the term ‘close-minded’. We must dare to accept changes, whether in our government, our education system, our lifestyles, our way of thinking, and any aspects in life.

This is one of the problems in Malaysia besides then issue of birocracy, racism, career opportunities, retrenchment, gender bias, corruption, exam oriented education system, cronism, freedom of expression, violation of human rights, crime, political instability, gender bias etc etc.

These problems make our future generation to work in overseas and never want to come back.

If the government is nice to its people, I believe, the people will be willing to die with its government.

Treat others as you would like to be treated!

Thank you.

Transsexual Worries for Safety After Negative Reaction to 'Marriage'

Controversial ‘marriage’: Mohammed Fazdil or Fatine and Young posing for a photo after they were married in a civil partnership in the UK last May.

LONDON: Malaysian transsexual Mohammed Fazdil Min Bahari is afraid to return home due to the negative reactions over her marriage to a Briton.

She has received a lot of negative e-mails and comments from people, some even accusing her of insulting the Malaysian government.

Mohammed Fazdil or Fatine, said she felt frustrated that people did not understand she had come to the United Kingdom because she wanted to be with the man she loved.

She added that she could not do that in Malaysia and people in the country seemed to be taking a religious point of view over the matter.

“I am so frightened to go back. I am worried for my safety,” she said in response to what she claimed was the inaccurate portrayal of their love story by a Malay tabloid which caused the negative reactions.

Speaking up for the first time after The Sun newspaper in London broke the story, Fatine said she did not know what to do as her family had already disowned her.

“I’ve spent hours on the phone asking for forgiveness. I love them but I can’t change what has happened,” said the 36-year-old makeup artist.

Fatine said it was a shame that the article had twisted their story as it was never their intention to insult the Malay community.

“They also put my father’s name in it, which was unnecessary and my mother is now afraid to leave the house,” she added.

Fatine also said that she understood that the Malays were very traditional and that “people like me aren’t acceptable”, but she hoped things would cool down eventually.

Fatine, who married Ian Young in a civil partnership in May, faces deportation back to Malaysia after her Leave to Remain visa was rejected by the Home Office over an “incorrect” photograph.

A second application with a passport photograph with a white background as required, instead of blue, was submitted for reconsideration but it was also thrown out in October.

The pair has just submitted their third application for a Right to Family Life under the Human Rights Act in Britain.

On Monday, Immigration director-general Datuk Abdul Rahman Othman said the department might take action against Fatine when she returned home as it viewed problems like overstaying seriously.

Young, 30, however, maintained that Fatine’s application was still being processed by the UK Border Agency and she should not be classified as an overstayer.

“All we want is to be married, happy and living together.

“The only way we can do this is over here in the UK,” said Young, who runs a property maintenance company.

He said the article also made it sound like they were trying to make a mockery of Muslim laws, which was never their intention.

“As a result of the way we have been portrayed, I now feel that we would be in more danger than ever if we were to try and live in Malaysia,” he added.

~ news taken from Choi Tuck Wo, The Star, Malaysia

~ http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/12/3/nation/5227020&sec=nation

Pesta Heritage Heboh Street Festival

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Heritage Heboh Street Festival

5 December 2009

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double DOUBLE happiness

Syukur.. what a good day today. I really had a very day good and prosperous day indeed.

Double double happiness! Means 4 happy things that happened today. ‘xuan xuan xi’.

1. As u all know, I got into the final of public speaking.

So I don’t have to repeat it again. But I want to say that despite the success, I managed to bring joy and excitement to people through my speech. How wonderful is that.

I want to say thank you again to everyone who were there. you guys made my Semester 3 so happening.

Trust me or not, THIS IS THE MOST HAPPIEST MOMENT BEING A UTARIAN IN UTAR KAMPAR AFTER ALMOST A YEAR.

Not to count the happiness with friends la.

2. A friend in uni told me that she saw me on TV.

I was like what??!! Why! For what? What am I doing there in TV?? All those questions popped up. im was so eager n excited to know the details.

She said I appeared in RTM 2 aka TV2 after the evening news. I was learning how to make kuih. According to her, I said that I took 1 week to persuade the kuih seller to teach how to make the kuih.

Then I start to remember about the interview that RTM did on me end of last night if im not mistaken. I couldn’t really recall exactly what happened during the interview la. I think there was also a person with me when the RTM journalist interview. Hmmm.. my sayang I guess, cuz the person took pic of me when the interview is going on.

They actually want to introduce the local delicacy that is popular in Penang. Sheau Fung from PHT called me to bring them there. So I brought them to Market Street where this Indian Muslim uncle sells the best samosa in Penang. Really sedap.

She asked me la the history of the shop, the seller, the samosa, about how I got involved with AAK n PHT, my feelings towards heritage etc etc lo. It’s so funny because I was talking in my broken Chinese with limited vocabulary. The show is in Mandarin ma.

Then the lady journalist asked me to demonstrate how to make samosa. Zzz.. I don’t think I learn how to make samosa before. I only interviewed them, watched them n eat samosa. Hmmm.. so for the very first time, I got the privilege to make samosa with the bos’s guidance. What a interesting experience.

I thought they show the programme already. Haha. I was wrong!

Thanks to AAK, PHT, ARTS-ED, I got a lot of exposures on many aspects in life, work and relationship. Through this NGOs, I learn performing arts, music, acting, interview skills, how to do research data management, how to do a good questionnaire, how to do good mind map, how to do documentation, event production stuff, appreaciation and the values of cultural heritage and heritage tour guiding.

Thanks to them also I found my love and I got to know Heritage Mafia and Kaki Penang. I miss Janet Pillai’s scoldings. I miss Sheau Fung. I miss Yoke Pinn.

I learn more about my root, my state’s history, the cultural heritage, the people of Penang and what's in their mind.

Talking about me on TV, I thought of these funny incidents. Im very kaypo aka busybody in my hometown, Penang. Whenever n wherever there are accidents, disasters, events, etc etc, I’ll be there..with all press. So nice to be with them at the front row to take pictures. Hahha. So the funny thing is I appeared on the newspaper quite a number of time…accidentally. Haha. the story is not about me but my picture was in there. it’s not my intention to be in the shot but it just so coincident that I was there. haha. I accidentally become popular lo.

3. Someone, my coursemate la, she suddenly said that “u noe i think ur more important to me den my bf. i think like secara tak langsung i think u are more important as a fren la!! r maybe we shud get married”

Fuh! I totally gone blank. What a statement. It sounds so wrong la. gila la her. so random. Don’t worry. No, she is not falling in love on me. haha.

Don’t la. not me la. go find some better guys in UTAR la. I also don’t want la. hmmm.. I just think feel ok to date someone in the uni especially your coursemate. So hard la. what if you argue, then your friends will have a very hard time to think who should they support. And what if the couple break up, it’ll be super awkward then.

So better keep the friendship then to ruin it.

I said to her, "cz im ur fren ma, we r clasmate n coursemate wat. we r clos wat." 

At least I know la im a good fren to her although she’s a bit cracko. Kind of sampat. hehe. I never thought that someone will say that to me. Something that a friend won't say. Something that sounds like a person likes me. I feel delighted about it. Yeala, so long already no one says such thing to me. Although im close with other coursemates as well, we don’t say such things la. malu la. shy la. if love love pun, just keep it in our heart la. take this 3 years to know each other better lo.

4. My roommate, Siang Yong is home. What a surprise. I thought he’ll only be home tomorrow. Anyway im so happy to see him. Very happy.

we go gay in the house, yell, scream, sing and camwhoring. Haha. I’ll show u his sexy photos. Oh he took some sexy shots of me too. Waaa bergay manyak syiok.

I asked him to massage me. hmm.. there’s room for improvement.

CONCLUSION

I had a bad Semester 2. Now, I feel good things start to happen towards end of the year. Isn’t it a good thing? Let’s work harder and achieve more. Well.. if I don’t work hard now and try to achieve my dreams, when else to do that? Opportunities don’t always come.